Episode 4: Paying it Forward
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Natalie: Hello! Welcome to my IBS story, I'm Natalie and I'm here to tell you my story of living with IBS for 14 years…and how I eventually became free from the IBS. And I hope to be the light at the end of the tunnel for anyone living with IBS. Your symptoms can be alleviated at the very least! So I am sharing my story so you can do it too :)

 

Welcome to episode four guys!

 

As usual you can find the show notes at www.nataliemears.co.uk/episode4

 

Okay! So just to summarize…so far you've heard what my life was like, living with IBS, the things I tried to alleviate the IBS symptoms and how I came across a therapy called Rapid Transformational Therapy. And in this episode I am joined by the RTT therapist who helped me overcome IBS! And we are going to be discussing what RTT is, how RTT works and what's involved. So without further ado would you like to introduce yourself?

 

Tracy: I’m Tracy Stone and I am a clinical hypnotherapist, I’m an advanced Rapid Transformational Therapist. So what does that all mean?

 

It means that I get to live the dream! I get to help people every day of my life to overcome their limitations, anything that stands between them and happiness, health, success whatever it is that is eluding them. I help people in generally as little as one session to overcome those issues just like you do as well using Rapid Transformational Therapy.

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Natalie: Thank you for introducing yourself Tracy, in such a beautiful way as well…it was really lovely and I completely agree, it really is kind of living a dream of really helping and serving others in a really meaningful way. It's amazing.

 

And yes I also practice Rapid Transformational Therapy just as Tracy does :) So Tracy would you like to explain to the listeners what RTT is?

 

Tracy: I would love to, so RTT is an incredible technique and methodology which helps people to very quickly, the trick there is in the name, Rapid Transformational Therapy, yes very quickly overcome their limitations. Now this methodology is different to an awful lot of other approaches. So for example people can say “well it's just hypnotherapy”, “isn't hypnotherapy a standard thing? Doesn't everybody do it the same?”

 

Actually no. It's kind of like buying a car, you don't just say “I’m going to buy a car and it doesn't matter which one” you pick. They're all different, they all have got a different level of quality, they can all go at different speeds, they've got different horsepower, they've got different bells and whistles associated. And RTT, if you're equating it like that, to a car, is like the Ferrari of cars.

 

So it was created by a lady called Marisa Peer, she's pretty much the world's foremost hypnotherapist, she's been working in this area for well over 30 years and she has worked with the top of the top! The most elite and these days she truly only really does either train her technique out, or works with the likes of world leaders, Oscar winners, Olympians, famous football teams, she works with the top of the top. She is really at the top of her game and she's there for a reason.

 

This methodology that she has created is different from other approaches of therapy, other approaches of hypnotherapy even, because it focuses on getting very quickly to the root cause of the problem whereas very often people come for therapy or even hypnotherapy and they have to come back again and again and again and it becomes kind of a series of things that you get into and it can be very much more about learning how to talk about your problem…

 

Natalie: ...rather than getting it solved.

 

Tracy: Exactly! So a lot of people, their aspiration is to learn how to live with the problem, they feel that living with what's going on for them, whether it's a health issue, whether it's a happiness issue, a love issue, relationships, success and business, in your career, a lot of people feel that living with that problem and accepting it and being able to talk about it and exist with it and have workarounds for it is what they're after. Because they don't actually realize they can be without the problem!

 

Natalie: And that was me for a long time and probably many of our listeners right now!

 

Tracy: Exactly, and I can understand why because that's what we get into a cycle of. We are living with the problem and we're just wishing it wasn't so hurtful, it wasn't so emotionally draining, physically draining and if only we could just cope with it better! And that becomes the aspiration but with RTT it's incredible at getting very quickly for 95% of clients to the root cause of the problem and on their journey to success in one session!

 

Natalie: How amazing is that?! Like you said it is living the dream! Helping people with a therapy like this.

 

Tracy: It is amazing, it really is and I see it every single day in my clients oh my gosh, the things that I see changing for them, that they see changing for themselves. It's just the most amazing thing and to see people living without that problem and realizing that if I can solve that big problem that I had I can solve any other thing that comes my way as well!

 

And that's the joy also of using RTT, is that you can teach them as you go through that session through that process to be able to use these approaches, these techniques at any other time in the future to radically transform whatever comes up and hits them!

 

Natalie: Yeah, I agree. With the clients that I work with, when you see the change in them, the transformation in them, and how empowered and how much more aware they are of what's really going on is really quite profound! So now Tracy, should we talk about how RTT actually works? We don't need to get too geeky into all of the neuroscience, maybe just like a brief overview.

 

Tracy: So RTT at the base of it, and hypnotherapy, they're all about the mind. And they're about the mind for a very good reason. You want to start thinking of it like it's like a computer or it's like your mobile phone which is basically a small computer. And that computer of our mind is in charge of running the machine which is your body. Now everything that happens to us in our body is controlled absolutely by the mind, and we can see that through a very simple example if somebody had a very severe accident. Let's say that they have been in a car crash, they've been run over, something really severe happens, they have very severe head trauma and they're in hospital and they are ‘brain dead’. When you are ‘brain dead’ your body cannot function, there are no signals being sent throughout the body to make your lungs, work to bring the oxygen into the blood, to send the blood around your body to the vital organs, there's nothing in your body that can work when you're ‘brain dead’. So therefore you would be lying in the hospital hooked up to many machines and they are making your body operate at a basic level, so from that example you can see how critical the mind is in how our body operates. It is the computer in control of that machine, but that computer has to get its programming somehow. It doesn't come with all of the programming.

 

Interestingly when we're born, we are born with only a couple of fears. There are only a couple of things that we are aware of, to be afraid of, to be concerned about, we are born with the fear of loud noises and the fear of being dropped. And they're very, very basic self-defence mechanisms and what they result in, in a baby is when they hear a loud noise they cry, they scream to draw attention to make sure they get saved or comforted, to know that everything is okay. If they feel they're going to be dropped, they kind of shoot their arms out in this little cute star-shaped pattern in an effort to try and stop themselves from falling. Now of course they can't, they don't even have the strength in their hands to cling on to anything, it's just that self-defence mechanism that kicks in.

 

So those are the only things that we're born with, everything else that we pick up along the way is stuff that we take on board as a result of life's journey and your mind is watching all of that, listening to all of that and it gets its programming based on how we react to the situations that we find ourselves in.

 

And what we mean by that is, it hears the words that you use and your mind is programmed to accept everything that you say. It accepts it as instruction, so your mind is constantly waiting for your words, for your instruction and it's that instruction, those thoughts that are quietly up in your head whether they are those quiet ones, whether it's the words you use out loud, those thoughts and those words are what your mind is listening for, it accepts every single thing that you tell it and that's what the brain takes in and it starts creating those new flashes, those connections, that neuroplasticity, that is the neural connections that form your belief system…

 

Natalie: ...which are our programs essentially.

 

Tracy: Right, exactly, it's our programs, it's what we believe to be true about us but it's really interesting then if you pair back all of that to realize that the core underlying aspect of it is that the words I use create my programming…nobody makes me say these things. No matter what somebody does to me, somebody could be cruel and mean to me, I might be bullied mercilessly and I’m in a very bad situation. I might be abused, I might be very badly cared for but it's not so much what other people do to me, it's what I say to myself about it. 

 

That's what the mind is listening to and it is based on that information that we feed back to the brain with our thoughts, with our words, that is what creates that programming. That's what creates the belief systems that I have and those belief systems are what the mind uses to say “ah, yes, okay” it listens to everything and when it listens to it, it converts it into your reality. So my words become my reality. And that's the simple way of saying neuroplasticity is what creates how my world looks and feels and smells and tastes.

 

Natalie: Amazing, thank you for explaining that Tracy!

 

Tracy: Not at all.

 

Natalie: So now let's start talking about what's really involved with Rapid Transformational Therapy…what can someone expect?

 

So you choose to do RTT, you've had the consultation, you both want to work with each other, you set up your RTT session…so you book a day, a time…so as the client you will be working in collaboration with the therapist that you choose to work with. And when you work with that person, first of all, you kind of talk briefly about “okay, why am I here? What am I wanting to work on?” So say for example I want to work on the IBS, the symptoms are ruling my life, I feel controlled by the IBS, I want to get relief from those symptoms…

 

Okay, so you want to be going to the toilet more often maybe…or less depending which type of IBS you have. So you want to be having perfect poo’s etc. So we're kind of painting the scene of actually what you want your life to look like without the problem, without the issue.

 

So we talk about that in the initial part of the RTT session and then once we've done that, then we go into hypnosis which is a totally relaxed state, you actually go into hypnosis naturally multiple times in the day without realizing…or maybe you do realize. So the therapist will guide you into hypnosis and in hypnosis, the whole point of RTT, as Tracy said, is getting to the root cause, so in order to get the root cause we're dialoguing with the subconscious. That's why we go into hypnosis because that's how you dialogue with the subconscious and we ask questions about what's the root cause of the IBS, what's the root cause of the symptoms, what's the root cause of why you miss out on events, things like this. So once you've gone back to a handful of these scenes, all about why you have the problem, the issue that you're facing, what you and the therapist do together is uncover the meaning and interpretations of these scenes, of these events from the past because the meaning and interpretation of those events basically creates those beliefs, or programs as Tracy mentioned. And you want to unravel those so that you don't have to live with that belief anymore and so in the session, your RTT therapist will help you deal with any unfinished business, so they'll use different techniques depending on whatever came up for you, whatever issues still need to be addressed and then right at the end of the session your therapist will create a personalized transformational recording for you, and it's totally personalized just for you and your needs, and what you want.

 

So for example in your recording it might be repeating “your digestive system works and operates perfectly”, “when you go to the toilet you have a perfect poo”, “you have one bowel movement a day”. Those types of things, and then to make a more vivid picture it might be “you go through life effortlessly”, “you are carefree”, “you can do and go as you please!” “You are free”, “you can say yes to opportunities, you are saying yes to opportunities that excite you…like going to the cinema, like going out for dinner and choosing anything you want off the menu!” “All of this is available to you!” So whatever it is that you want, and those examples are more the sorts of things that my IBS clients want to hear because they've been living with restriction for such a long time, they want to be able to go out for dinner and have whatever they want off the menu, they want to have the freedom to go to the cinema, to go out with friends because for such a long time. They haven't been doing that because the symptoms have held them back.

 

So that's really what to expect in an RTT session. So the next bit we're going to talk about is actually how do I get the ball rolling on that? How do I actually make this happen? So say someone wants RTT, they're thinking about having RTT as I did around three years ago now. So the person finds a therapist that they feel that they want to work with, the client contacts the therapist and then you have a consultation. So do you just want to very briefly explain the consultation process?

 

Tracy: Absolutely and you're so right Natalie, it's a critical part of the process, it's the opportunity for the client to decide is this therapist right for them, do they connect, we connected really well and that's important that when you reach out to somebody, you don't have to go with them.

 

You don't have to accept them, you don't have to go into their care, you get a choice in that. And you must reserve that choice for somebody that you believe in, you connect with and they know what they're talking about. You have faith in them because when we place faith in something that's part of our belief system. It gives us a comfort, it makes us think “yes, they can help me”, “they can do something”, if I get the sense that there's somebody like we had mentioned earlier who wants to learn how to talk about their problem, who would rather be better served perhaps by having regular counselling, regular therapy that's not what I do. I work with people who are ready to be free, people who are ready to be rid of the problem and live without the problem.

 

Whereas a lot of other people don't want that, they actually want to do the regular talking so I will actually advise them to go to somebody more suited to what they're looking for. But then in the consultation call itself, most therapists will offer you a free consultation, and they should. So the free consultation will usually last somewhere around 20 to 30 minutes, occasionally longer, it really does depend on how long it takes somebody to be able to talk a little bit more freely about the thing they want to solve because people do feel embarrassed and they do feel ashamed and they do feel guilt and they feel they shouldn't have this problem at all, that makes them feel like they're being weak so there's that conflict when you're trying to talk about something that you don't want to have and it takes a little bit of time to open up.

 

Natalie: You might even be the first person they've ever said this to, so that's a big thing!!

 

Tracy: Exactly, it's a very big thing and that opportunity then helps to show both them are they ready for this form of therapy, are they ready to actually let it all out and make a brilliant choice which they will make in the session, to say I let go, I am ready to let go because the most transformational aspect of it all is realizing…that if I want to hold on to my baggage, I can't be free of it. You can't have it both ways.

 

So you've got to know I either want to hold on to this because I feel somehow it's protecting me, to hold that pain close, to remind myself of how I’ve been hurt, if I want to hold it and I think that's protecting me, I can't be free of it as well. So the consultation process is a great way of seeing is that connection there for us both, and I can then explain to the client what this whole process is about, what RTT is, how it helps us to find the root cause of the problem by going into hypnosis and you explain to the client the reality of it that in hypnosis, you're connected into your subconscious mind and your conscious mind and subconscious mind are radically different.

 

So your conscious mind, the mind that you are using now to have this conversation with me, the mind that I’m using to talk to you and to your lovely listeners, we're using our conscious mind it's the awake mind, it's the task focused mind, the one that gets us through the day, gets all the stuff done, gets the work done, gets the housework done, gets the shopping done, goes out for fun, it's the awake mind. But that conscious mind does not have a long-term memory, it's there to focus on the now and to get stuff done.

 

In hypnosis we explain to our clients in that consultation you're going into your subconscious mind which is entirely different, your subconscious mind has a long-term memory and when you're connected into that, for example you're connected into your subconscious mind when you're sleeping and dreaming, and that's how we often wake up thinking “gosh, I had the weirdest dream and it doesn't quite make sense anymore”. That's because I’m now trying to put it all together in my conscious mind, so they operate very differently but when I go into my subconscious mind and hypnosis I can go back to any point of time in my life and get the answers that I need because your subconscious mind is basically like a huge filing cabinet and everything that you've ever seen, done, tasted…everywhere you've been…everything you've heard…every experience that you've had is in there, in that filing cabinet and when you're connected into that you can easily ask your mind to say “bring me back to the time that I felt like this”, “bring me back to the time that I started to believe this about me” and it knows what you mean, and it says “yeah, let me just look at my filing cabinet here”, pulls out the right file for you and it goes through the file that says “oh yes, that's when this happened”. And you explain that process of how you're going to use hypnosis in that consultation and then when the client comes to the session they have a little bit less stress, a little bit less anxiety about what's to come because they know what to expect.

 

Natalie: They know they're going into hypnosis, they know they're going to go back to some scenes that are linked to do with this issue that they want to have some relief or freedom from.

 

Tracy: Exactly and it's a great opportunity in the consultation to also be able to explain the homework…

 

Natalie: A really important element!

 

Tracy: Oh my gosh, it's so important, so the homework entails different things. You know if you're doing a very basic RTT as in you have a quick chat with the client, you go into hypnosis, you're going to create a recording for your client, now I’m sure you create a personalized recording for every client…

 

Natalie: absolutely…

 

Tracy: ...in the session because you know what the words that you need to hear are slightly different to the words that anybody else needs to hear, even if it's the same topic because we're all different. So the right words flow in the session and you create the recording and the recordings are usually about 20 or 25 minutes long…not a specific length but you know…sometimes a little less, sometimes a little bit more…yeah, it's whatever seems to be right at that time but you as the client then need to listen to that hypnosis recording every day for at least 21 days! Now this is a really important aspect and again covering it in the consultation calls critical and it's important to the client because it takes the mind around 21 days to either break an old habit, whether that's in practice or a habit of belief, or it takes around 21 days to form a new habit! And again, that's a habit of practice or a habit of belief and generally we're looking to do both. We're looking to break the old habit of belief that made me feel that I couldn't overcome my problem, that I was stuck with IBS, that I will always have this problem, that I will always feel this way, I’ll always have the anxiety attached to it. And it takes around 21 days to also create the new habit of knowing you, know what that's in my past…I don't need that anymore and I don't even have it.

 

Yeah, so the recording is so critical and if people in the consultation say “oh well, you know, I don't know if I’ll have time” then maybe it's not the time for them to do this because they won't get the same result if they don't knuckle down and listen to the recording! But as soon as they do, they start to report back saying “oh my god, doing my recording is the best time of my day! I love it so much, I don't know why I was resistant to doing it in the first place because it just…it relaxes me, it makes me feel amazing, it gives me a huge confidence boost”. So you've got to set that scene for them to know what's coming, what to expect.

 

Natalie: Yeah that commitment is super important! Shall we now talk about what happens with the follow-ups because I know both me and you offer follow-ups to our clients and we both feel that it's really quite an important part of the process too.

 

So do you want to talk a bit about that?

 

Tracy: It's so important to do the follow-up! And people leave the session feeling amazing… and kind of 50% of people at the end of a session will feel exhausted and it's for good reason because you've done an awful lot of work! You've let go of a lot of things and suddenly you just think “oh my gosh I could sleep now and I could sleep for 24 hours”…half of people tend to react that way, half of people seem to feel energized, they just want to go somewhere and do something and they feel lighter and just they're so excited. So at the end of a session people feel great one way or the other, either great because they're tired and they've let go! Or great because they've let go and they're energized! And then they start listening to the recording every day, you've got to persist over the 21 days and when you do, you break through into this amazing space where you think “oh wow! I really have got this”.

 

Natalie: Yes, so same as you, I mean I really think that it's an important part of the RTT journey to have those follow-ups and to have check-in calls to see how you're doing, to share how you're doing and to share those “aha moments” and celebrate their success, the person's success. Well I think that's pretty much everything on what RTT is, on what's involved in having an RTT session and what someone can expect.

 

I think we've really painted a picture for people who are potentially interested in releasing themselves, relieving themselves from whatever issue that they have in their life whether it's IBS or something else.

 

And if you have any questions or queries just head on over to my website which is www.nataliemears.co.uk and right at the bottom of the website is a form where you can just send me a message if you've got any questions about RTT, what's involved or anything else…just fill in that form or you can send me a text my mobile number's at the bottom of that website and I will be happy to answer any questions you've got :)

 

Natalie: So that's all for now, thank you so much for joining me Tracy and helping paint that picture for listeners!

 

Tracy: It's a pleasure Natalie, so thank you for letting me join you and your listeners.

 

Natalie: You are very welcome! In the next episode Tracy is joining me again, where we're going to be talking about actually what happened for me in my RTT session for IBS which I had with Tracy about three years ago, so I look forward to you joining me then. So that's all for today's episode, thanks for listening and if you could write a review subscribe rate and spread the word about this podcast to anyone you know that has IBS that would be great!

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